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PUA fashion lessons revolve around  "peacocking"
(the act of wearing an outlandish item, like a pink
feather boa or LED shirt). This is a great
conversation starter (women WILL open you) but it
isn't an answer to transforming your sense of style
into your best self.

So, how does the man who wants to achieve his
best self style proceed?

Enter my fashion guru Jeffrey Sebelia - winner of
Project Runway, fashion consultant to celebrities,
and one of the Total Life Makeover expert
presenters.

There's no way I can tell you everything he taught
me, you'd need to see him in action for that. But let
me give you a taste...

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Two Things I Learned About Fashion from My
Fashion Guru
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1. POP!

This idea is sort of like peacocking, but I feel that
sometimes peacocking can seem a little cartoony.
Sebelia taught me that the fashion term "pop"
means a touch of color that stands out in your
outfit. It's the piece that draws the viewer's eye
immediately.

"I saw a guy the other day wearing yellow socks
with bright blue stars on them." exclaimed Sebelia.

"Everything else he was wearing was khaki and
wasn't amazing but there was something about
those socks. And I was looking at them thinking
that's amazing! That's a conversation piece...and
that shows character."

We see in Sebelia's story the "pop" was a colorful
pair of socks. Try creating your own "pop" in this
manner. Experiment by putting together an outfit
that for the most part is normal, perhaps a black
suit. Then add a touch of pop, socks as mentioned
earlier, a bright pocket square, or perhaps a colorful
patterned vest beneath your coat.

2. Build a Fashion Character

When attempting a fashion make-over I hear a lot
of guys express that they don't feel comfortable
dressing differently. They have trouble stepping
outside of the fashion comfort zone they've built
over the years.

First, let me say that becoming a PUA is all about
stepping out of your comfort zone. And, yes, this can
be difficult to do. But Sebelia offers a solution in
regards to fashion.

"Fashion is about building character. You are the
character that you've built, and you can't disassemble
it. But you can build a new character." says Sebelia.

As you purchase new clothes or as you get dressed
Sebelia suggests that you refer to this new character
mindset. "As you get dressed look in the  mirror and
ask yourself what would the new character do? Would
the new character button this shirt all the way up or
would he leave one undone? Would the new character
add a touch of pop?"

Sebelia's suggestion of approaching fashion as the
building of a new character allows you to ease into the
idea of your fashion make-over as you build your best
self. Try it.

Pretend you are not yourself but rather the ultra-
fashionable version of you; the best-stylish you.
Imagine what this stylish you wears and how he wears it.
Allow this character to guide you in your new apparel
choices. Quickly you'll find that this method pushes you
to explore new realms of fashion.

This is just a start - follow the sneak's tutorial as a baseline and become your own fashion guru,