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THIS WEEK'S WEEKEND WINGMAN
Avoid this game killer at all costs!
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It's a game killer that so many men fail to avoid:

Chasing a woman just because she LOOKS good.

Every day sexy women are BOTHERED by men who
hit on them POORLY by delivering endless "You're so
hot" type compliments.

It's time to focus on finding the women that
DESERVES such a man. And yes, this MUST become
your mentality.

She must DESERVE you, and you must have standards
that she lives up to. This is the kind of woman
you'll really connect with.

To talk more on the subject, I turn this Wingman
over to a personal friend of mine, Stylelife's very
first Student of the Year: Fate.

Considering Fate recently found *THE ONE* and his
marriage is fast approaching, I can't think of
anyone better to speak on the subject.

Enjoy...

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Exploring Qualification
by Fate
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The first step to proper qualification is proper
timing. Generally speaking, YOU can begin qualifying
after you receive some indicators of interest (IOIs)
and your calibration tells you it's time or if a
woman will comply with kino escalation.

If you're still developing your calibration and
aren't completely confident in kino, then as an
alternative you can add qualification to your
routine stack after your third attraction routine.

A sample stack could be:

1. Opener
2. Future Projection Gambit
3. Cold Read
4. Demonstration Of Higher Value (DHV) Story
5. Qualifier

Openers are abundantly available and attraction
DHVs are covered extensively in the academy, so
any Stylelife student should be able to create
this stack with ease once they understand the two
broad categories of qualification, "man qualifies
woman" and "woman qualifies herself."

The "man qualifies woman" category, which I call a
directive qualifier, occurs when the social artist
asks a question with the intent of qualifying the
woman based on her answer.

You may ask "What's your dream job?" The point of
this question is not to evoke a specific response in
the woman, but rather to give you an opportunity to
see how you feel about her answer.  

Say she tells you it is to be a teacher, you could
then qualify her by saying "That's awesome. Teaching
has got to be one of the most important professions.
This world needs more people with ambitions like
yours."

The second type of qualifier is the "woman qualifies
herself," or what I call pursuit qualification. A
pursuit qualifier is a statement made by a woman
that conveys an attractive quality. One great way to
lead her into pursuit qualification is with an
indirect challenge.

Say she mentions that she is 18, you could playfully
tease and disqualify her by saying "Oh, you are too
young for me; you won't be able to keep up with my
vast worldly experience."

She responds with a statement to the tune of "I'm
actually very mature for my age. I hang out with
lots of older people!"

See her pursuit qualifier? She is claiming to
possess a characteristic that you find attractive
and, at the same time, denying that she possesses a
characteristic that you find unattractive.

There will also be unprompted pursuit qualification,
say you're telling a story about how you coach a
children's swim team and one of the women you're
speaking to interjects that she used to be an all-
state swimmer.

She knew that you'd find athleticism, particularly
in swimming, attractive, and made sure to let you
know even though you never challenged her to do so.
Pursuit qualifiers are great opportunities, but they
aren't complete on their own.

Ignoring a pursuit qualifier can actually hurt your
cause, instead give her an IOI. In the last example,
you could respond "Wow, that's awesome!" and then
stack with another directive qualifier, "What was
your favorite stroke?"

An alternative response to her pursuit qualifier is
playful teasing. For example, if a woman says "I'm a
really good dancer" without being prompted, you
could smile and say "I'm sure you are, but stop
trying to impress me!"

Using these qualification techniques you'll find out
many things about the woman you are with, things
that go far below the surface of what she looks
like. This allows you to discover the women that
you're interested in most and to create deep and
meaningful bonds with them.

After your encounter they'll remember how connected
the two of you were and how much you stand out from
all those shallow guys who couldn't see past the
physical.

If I was in her position, I'd answer your call (but
don't get any ideas, you're not my type).


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You took the time to read the whole article...
...I like that. You're cool in my book.
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On everyone's behalf I'd like to thank Fate for
such a great article, and congratulate him on his
engagement and upcoming wedding.

Best,

The Sneak